At times it’s so difficult to let go of things that we are so attached to. Be it anything people, friends, things, pets, etc. We love them so much or are so dependent on them that we can hardly imagine our lives without them. The very thought of losing them gives one nightmares and anxious moments. We constantly live in fear of losing that which is so dear to us. The fear of losing them can be crippling at times to the extant that one tends to live an almost a psychotic life. At times the realization of how deeply one is attached to or how crucial that person or thing was/is for one’s own survival or existence comes when one has already lost it or is on the verge of losing it.
I was having a discussion on this topic and I asked others how one can get rid of the fear of losing. L said something on it. I found it quite philosophical and sensible so, am putting it down here,
“Accept the Fact that nothing is permanent...it is difficult and People come and People go...u need to let them go....but then do not let go of the happiness they gave you...the understanding they gave you...even if it is a pet...they make a difference in your life and happily let them go the more you hold on the difficult it is for YOU...so JUST let go...”
It’s a universal truth that nothing is permanent. We know that death and break-ups have the potential to tear us away from our most cherished ones. But when it comes to accepting this fact with respect to our dear ones it becomes even harder than a block of iron. The more one thinks of letting them go, the more it wrenches ones heart. Letting go off the other person means not just setting the person free but also allowing a part of oneself to die which is even harder. This is so because one is left feeling incomplete or amputated. And getting back to life or rebuilding oneself is not that easy and fast. Time is the best healer and I guess eventually one learns to let things go either by will or fate because after a point our will has no hold over other things except our own heart.
The fear of losing should not stop us from loving others. Let’s create that exit door in our hearts so that it can let go off fear too, out of our mind and heart. Perhaps then we will be able to love with a free and fearless heart.
A love that is binding yet so unbinding at the same time.
7 comments:
hi dear
this is so true and I felt while reading the lines as if you have given words to my felings.....and I totally agree with L.The happiness brought by someone is the thing to be cherished and very true nothing is permanent so let it go....
It is easier said than done. Wish it was equally easy doing it.
True!!!! but difficult to accept
heyy
what i feel that if you really love one ,,,,purely...then where are they ..doesn't affect you much ..what affect you.is how r they.. if they are happy....there not much ..grievances of ..separation....being ...distant ...
Love know only one thing ....that's LOVE
Fear is like a cage ...being a human its the our character n built-in feature to feel it like that way , Love never ...go weak ...n have fears ...if u look over it n beyond ..its just our immediate reaction to the things that may happen or not ....
fear of loosing is the just a way of showing our concern to the beings around ..
So love is ..is the only solution this misery of fear factor ...
@ Meghana,
Ya, its difficult.
@ M,
It takes a lot of time to come to the stage where one can do what ur saying.
@ Vivek,
You are right fear is almost like a cage where you are trapped.
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