I write and erase with such celerity that it surprises me. Snatching self from self, tearing my own thoughts into bits and feeding my own hungry dreams that are no less than suckling infants. I wonder how can one mother more than one child. Maybe it is easy being a mother than fathering two dreams or is it vice-versa? I might be wrong but somehow I feel that the way a man treats his children is different from the way a woman does, given their biological and social make-up and thought-process. I am comparing parenting with nurturing dreams because nurturing dreams is almost like nurturing children. We have many dreams and we try to live them all; success or failure of it is another thing but trying to live or materialize them is of utmost importance to me.
So, I wish to understand the relationship that we share with each of our dreams and the treatment that we give to each of them. Why are we partial to one and kind to another? (Well! One may say that our level of interest in it, available opportunities and resources, decides our response to it but......) Can we as a parent truly treat all are children with equal affection?
My question is can we humans truly treat others with equality? Can we be impartial or non-distinctive in our treatment?
Is it pure selfishness or is it love that makes one so selfish or partial?
P.S. This post is a little jumbled up. Hope you all can make some sense out of it. Happy Sunday!
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Of all the books in the world, you will want to read the most, wrt this topic, is "Why is Sex Fun" by Jaret Diamonds.
You'll be amazed by what he writes about the differences between males and females - on a physiological level. All of us start out as females, until we are 'x' months old, when, for males, the male genes kick in, and start supressing the development of female organs.
Since you talk of parenting, you'll find it interesting to know that men can lactate - yes almost every man on the face of this planet is capable of lactating - all it needs is an infant sucking at the nipples to start the lactation process.
I'm not playing down the physiological differences, but I'm just suggesting that the differences may not be as big as we think they are.
I will not fall in the trap of finding some philosophical escape from this fact - like saying that it is not men or women that make better parents, but the child which brings out the parent in them - that would be wrong take a scientific fact and draw some philosophical allegory, a trap we must avoid at all costs.
> My question is can we
> humans truly treat
> others with equality?
> Can we be impartial
> or non-distinctive
> in our treatment?
In a way you have answered it yourself. I guess never, because we all see the world from our 'perspective' which prevents us from being 'impartial'. Again, I could draw parallelisms in Heisenberg's uncertainty principle, but that would be wrong.
> Is it pure selfishness
> or is it love that makes
> one so selfish or partial?
A male clown-fish changes its sex the moment the female of the school dies. Sometimes even a monkey can adopt an abandoned puppy. Its best not to delve into this question as we will never get an answer to the exact proportions - but by and large, what I think is that a part of it is programmed into us - our genes - and a part of it is under our control. In what proportions - in what degrees - I don't think we have the answers, or will ever have the answers.
hmm....yes....parents always wanted to treat their children with fairness and equality but children always mixed it all....
So are dreams...human mind loves all of its dreams but some dreams got the tendency to become reality and some don't...
I think it could be the selfishness that we vehemently deny.
Regards,
Blasphemous Aesthete
If we try its not impossible to treat every one equally but I feel its selfishness and love both to some extent that makes one partial.
P.S. The post makes a lot of sense.
the answer is simple NO WE DONT..
Human being is the most selfish specie on this planet ...
Bikram's
Its self love... and that leads to selfishness..its nature's law : ): )
Cheers,
I do not believe humans can treat others equally. Several factors including relationship come into play. I do not believe a mother treats two children equally so as father....It is impossible to define the equal anyway. If a child is weak, mother gives more attention and that is the right thing to do...
Everyone is not equal and hence everyone gets different treatment.
I like the dreams/ children analogy.
i won't say what it actually is, but its true dat a person can't treat others with equality.....wad i feel may b its d bonding or relation dat is different nd dat imparts partiality bt wad it is xactly ,sayin it is difficult....
I think it's more of selfishness .
Food for thought :)
take care
the smell awaits you!!
Hey, this is one small but heavy-on-mind post.Great work Sh@s.
I think its selfishness that makes us partial. We look for our interest in any person and then get into relationship accordingly.
We can't share anything in equal amounts there is always a chance of 1% or .5% less or more.Impartial is not a word that we keep in our minds for using while we treat someone it just jumps out of nowhere without our knowledge and we come to know after the partiality has been done(intentionally doing so is very rare case).
It is selfishness or love is a very tough question..though i frame it like even love is selfish as it wants the respective partner to be happy for the sake of satisfaction of selves.
tc
@ Rajbir Bhattacharjee,
Thanks! for caring to answer my questions so elaborately. There is some food for thought :)
@ Thinking,
I wonder if its the child who mixes the feelings or is it vice-versa.
@ Blasphemous Aesthete,
Yep, sadly it is.
@ Mystic,
Thanks! Yes, both the feelings are responsible for our biased behaviour.
can we humans truly treat others with equality? Can we be impartial or non-distinctive in our treatment? v can but v donttttttttttttttttt
an we humans truly treat others with equality? Can we be impartial or non-distinctive in our treatment? v can but v dontttttttttttt
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